Become a phoenix from the ashes

I have had social anxiety for most of my life. Looking back at my school years I can see it in myself despite me not understanding what the emotions were or where they stemmed from at that point. I feared speaking to people, which is so utterly toxic. As of today, socialising with people is my greatest source of happiness. This is symbolic of my overall turnaround as a human being. The way to battle social anxiety, and it is a vicious one, is to slowly take small steps in the right direction. Slowly exposing yourself to increasingly “scary” situations. Start off by taking a train journey, having a one on one with a close friend, or simply having a walk. It is important to bear in mind that you need to know your limits. If you are in a dark place and instantly attempt public speaking, this can prove to be traumatic and counter your development. Slowly building up your confidence and comfort in situations via everyday tasks is the key. For me antidepressants have made this a lot ...

 Emotion can be likened in many ways to a stock on the market. The fluctuations can be frantic at times, however investment most likely sees an overall positive trajectory. Investment includes simple everyday things such as getting outside even on walks, talking with friends or whatever gives you happiness or purpose.  It is important when your stock is falling not to despair. The knowledge that stocks are volatile and will inevitably rise once again is useful knowledge for it provides hope, even when your stock has reached its lowest value.  Invest. invest. invest, and revel in the long-term gains of the value of your stock.  

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUngLgGRJpo A video here which is used as a metaphor for drug addiction in rehab centres. I think it creates an effective picture of the importance of not getting reliant on certain substances.  One of my vices in alcohol, I get the high for the night then the next morning feel awful. It sometimes creates a cycle as I feel hungover I drink to offset the withdrawals and then feel even worse the next and so on.  That effect is what the video describes and it's important to keep in your perspective if you struggle. The acknowledgement that this is short term and comes at a cost.

So, you’ve woken up. You don’t want to get out of bed. You’re disappointed that you’ve even woken up in the first place. But you have woken up. As always you have a choice. Do you give in to your negative emotions, stay hiding from the world under your covers? Is that going to make you happy? No The other choice is to fight. Fight those demons as soon as you realise, you’re awake. The key I’ve found, and which is supported by many psychologists such as Jordan Peterson is to start with the small things. Fight to make your bed. Fight to get up and have a shower. Fight to go outside and go for a walk. As you do these things you will gradually notice your mood improve. Your emotional brain (or chimp as referred to in the chimp paradox) is being convinced that you’re not worthless, which you never were. You notice a feeling of good mood. Of pride for productivity. These feelings carries for much of the day. Fight for the small battles, and soon you will notice a change in balance of...